Dealing With a Break Up – Having Trouble Coping With the Break Up?
Dealing with a break up and having trouble coping it , is a usual response . You are not unique in having to go through this, trust me , there is no shame that comes with a breakup . The first thing I advise you to do after it happens is to think about best way for you to manage the breakup\ split .
Responses usually fall into two categories :
Self destruction - by letting the split break you down , this is on the spot reaction, which you need to overcome and move on, I find that friends or family are the best help.
Overcoming it – this way you will become more complete , there is a poem that sums it up well
“That which does not kill you
Makes you stronger
For the heart is like any other muscle
Without pain there is no gain”….
Your whole attitude and outlook will let you understand you how well you will deal with the split up .
You will probably never had to face such a intimidating situation , but you do not have to let it demolish\ devastate you, keep this verse with you, so that you can look at it when you are feeling down, surviving this will certainly characterize your future life .
Divorce or the breakup of a love affair is always thorny especially if it was due to infidelity or an affair, you may have doubts about your self-worth . If these feelings are becoming overpowering then seek counselling to help you cope. This is especially true if the break up came about if any sort of abuse was involved.
If you can not quite get over your feelings of doubt about your self worth then seek help, “problems shared are problems halved “and unless you deal the break up now, it will cause long term problems .
Positive thinking, when dealing with a break up, must control your attitude , it is all over now. A friend of mine said, of her ex, when this happened to her “Thank you for not wasting any more of my time…….NEXT! ”, this will help you become a stronger person . Put succinctly it demonstrates to you that there is a life to look forward to, learning from the marriage will make you a better person in future .
“Thank you for not wasting any more of my time…….NEXT!”, keep repeating this to yourself, there is a new life set out before you you and this time you will thrive . Every day is a new day, just focus yourself on the good things in your life and that you have a better life to look forward to. As your conviction in yourself grows a little bit stronger every day, you will see that “the best is yet to come”, dealing with the past will slowly stop being a problem
Jus think life’s hick-ups need only be overpowering , if you let them, this split up does not define your life, it is the firm ground to build your future from now on.
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