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Do you know how to get over being dumped?  Here are seven things you can do when your ex has just called it quits.

1.) Spend some time mourning the relationship.  If the relationship was important to you, you won’t just be able to “walk away” casually.  In a way, it is a kind of death.  One thing you can do is to write a long letter to your ex about the relationship.  But don’t mail it to him or her.  Burn it over a candle.  This is a symbolic way to bring closure to the relationship.

2.) Exchange all of your “things.”  Another symbolic (and practical) thing you can do is exchange all of the things you have of the other’s.  This provides both a physical and emotional cleansing.  You don’t want to have things around that remind you of your ex.  But, you also don’t want to have the exchange lingering over your head.

3.) Go to the gym.  Getting back into shape has multiple benefits for you.  First of all, if you are depressed, working out gets your endorphins working which will lift your mood.  Secondly, the act of working out brings you back into contact with other people.  Finally, as you start to look better, you will feel more attractive which can help when you are ready to move on.

4.) Another step in how to get over being dumped is to get reacquainted with old friends.  Sometimes, when you are in a relationship, your world starts to revolve around your girlfriend or boyfriend.  Old friends fall by the wayside because you don’t have the time to nurture your friendships.  This is a good time to reconnect with the people you love platonically.

5.) Start a new hobby.  If you were with someone for a long time, there were probably interests that you had that got suppressed because your ex wasn’t interested.  Sometimes this meant that you dropped an old interest.  Other times, you developed a curiosity about something new.  In either case, pursue this interest or hobby.

6.) Get involved in something larger than yourself.  One of the things about mourning a relationship is that it is easy to get self absorbed.  But, when you throw yourself into an activity that is larger than yourself, you break that mold.  Think about the volunteer activities you can get involved with.  Find one that you care a lot about.  If you don’t have any ideas right away, most communities have a list of voluntary activities on a website.

7.) Start to date again.  If a cute guy asks you out, go – even if you are not all that interested in him.  If a cute girl starts to flirt – ask her out.  This doesn’t have to be the greatest relationship of your life.  But, just having a date or two gets you back into the game.  The sooner you are able to start casual dating again, the sooner you will be able to heal.

Practicing these seven steps will help you when you are trying to figure out how to get over being dumped.

Has your boyfriend dumped you?  It hurts, doesn’t it?  It is no fun to be on the losing end of a relationship.  Here’s some tips for how to get over a broken heart.

First of all, pour out your heart.  Some of the best poetry and music have been about how to get over a broken heart.  If you are not a poet or a musician, consider writing a long letter to your ex.  Let him know how you felt about him and how he hurt you.  But, don’t mail the letter.  Instead, have a ceremony where you burn the letter over a candle.  This will provide you with a ceremonial end to the relationship.

Second, decide that the relationship is really over.  Nothing will keep your broken heart bleeding more than trying to win an ex back when the relationship has died.  Don’t call, text, and email him constantly.  In fact, it may be best to have a month where you don’t talk at all.

Next, go out and spend time with your friends.  Friends can really help you survive a break up.  They may be able to help you talk through some of the issues that went wrong.

But, don’t take advantage of your friend’s time.  Remember that the relationship was far more interesting to you than it was to them.  Also, know that they may have their own agendas in tearing down your ex rather than building you up.

So, while you can certainly talk about your broken heart, also spend time talking about things your friends care about.  Otherwise, they may think you have become a “downer” and not want to spend time with you anymore.

Also, when you spend time with your friends, try to do fun things.  Suggest going to an amusement park or a spa.  You may even suggest a road trip or weekend getaway.

Get back into the swing of life as well.  There is nothing like going to the gym to get the endorphins working.  It will make you look and feel better.

If you have interests that have lain dormant for a period of time, reactivate them.  Take a cooking class or join a hiking group.

It may also be a good idea to get involved in something larger than yourself.  When you volunteer, you reach out and make a real contribution in your community.  It will put your current pain in perspective for you.

Start to accept dates from guys even if you don’t really feel like going out.  Remember, dinner is not a commitment, it’s just a meal.  As you get back into the swing of things, you will start to feel better about yourself.

If you still are in the blues, seek out professional help.  A neutral therapist can help you get your equilibrium back and a psychiatrist may be able to prescribe short term medication such as Prosac that can help you bet back on track.

I hope these tips were helpful in how to get over a broken heart.  Believe me, this too shall pass.  You will find a new boyfriend and life will be better again.

Has your heart recently been broken?  Do you feel that your life will never be the same again?  Do you wonder if you will ever get over the depression that has plagued you since he dumped you?  Here’s how to deal with a break up.

First of all, you need to give yourself permission to mourn.  A break up is a sort of death – a death of a relationship.  So, be prepared to deal with the magnitude of it.

One way to do this is to write.  You can write poetry, prose, or music.  But, by letting your feelings turn into words on paper, you start to soothe your broken heart.

Another way to mourn is to talk about the relationship.  You can turn to friends and family.  But, be realistic about the amount of help your friends and family can give you.  While they care about you, they will not let you bring them down with your tales of woe.  So, let them help you, but don’t burden them.  If talking to friends and family is not enough, consider going to see a therapist.

The next thing in how to deal with a break up is to let go.  Don’t harbor resentment against your ex any longer.  Consider doing this exercise: write a long letter to your ex expressing all of your emotions.  Then, burn the letter using a candle.  This symbolic and ceremonial act can help you with the closure process.

Another way to let go is to give your ex back all of the stuff you have of his.  For instance, if he lent you his sweatshirt one evening, don’t hang on to it, give it back.  And, if he has anything of yours, ask for it back.  Also, don’t leave little things around that remind you of him.  If you can throw these things away, do it.  If not, box them up and put them out of sight for the time being.

Clear out any pictures you have of him.  But, don’t do anything dramatic like throwing them away or burning them.  In time, when you have some perspective, you will want to look back on this time in your life and have some photos.  So, just box them up for the time being.

The next thing in how to deal with a break up is to cut off communication for a while.  Don’t plan to call, text or email him and don’t encourage him to talk to you.  Take a break from each other.  Don’t check your facebook or myspace page to see if he’s written anything.  Make a clean break of it.

Finally, consider taking other guys up on their offers to take you out.  Even if they aren’t the cutest or the most popular, going out on dates again will get you back on your feet and restore your confidence.

I assure you that your heart will heal.  And, that’s how to deal with a break up.

Have you just been dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend that you cared a lot about?  Is your heart broken?  Are you not sure how to move on? Here’s how to deal with a break up.

First of all, make sure that the relationship is truly over.  Sometimes people break up on the spur of the moment and regret it almost immediately.  Other times, couples just need a “breather” to get a sense of whether to move on.

So, make sure that the relationship is truly over before following the advice in the rest of this article.

But, once you are ready to move on, there are some things you can do to assist in the healing process.

First of all, get rid of all of your ex’s things.  Do a “property swap” where you give them their stuff and they give you yours.  If there are little things like toothbrushes that don’t necessarily need to be exchanged, throw them away.

Your ex may have given you gifts that you value.  You don’t necessarily want to get rid of these things, but you also don’t want them to be a constant reminder of the break up.  For the time being, box them up and put them in the attic.  The idea is that you don’t want anything around that reminds you of your ex.

The next step in how to deal with a break up is to cut off communication with your ex.  While at some time in the future you might be able to be “just friends,” right now is not the time.  You have some healing to do and it’s best to do it without him or her in your life.

So, don’t see each other casually, phone, email, text or otherwise keep the ties that bind.  If you are in the same school or workplace, make an effort to keep your distance without being rude.

After a break up, you are likely to be hurting and you won’t want to go out and be social right away.  But you should!  Staying in and eating pints of Ben and Jerry’s is not how to deal with a break up!  Instead, get out there and reconnect with friends and family.  Make a point of participating in girl’s and guy’s nights out.

Also, take advantage of this period of your life to explore new interests.  It may be a good distraction to take up cycling or cooking.  Take an art class or join a book discussion group.  Get back into your workout routine at the gym or start with a beginning yoga class.  Your ability to deal with the loss of your ex will, in large part, be a reflection of whether you can get back out into the real world without him or her.

At some point, you will find that you are attracted to another person.  Make some overtures even if you don’t think it will turn out to be the love of your life.  A rebound relationship can help you get over an ex.  And that is how to deal with a break up.