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The connection between a couple is often a fragile bond. A bond that requires continuous work and maintenance for the relationship to grow and be healthy. The sad fact is that splitting up  is a reality and it is usually annoying, stressful and nerve wracking. Following a split up its absolutely normal that you want to get back at your ex .

However, you should determine that that’s truly the best thing to do. The art of getting back at your ex can result in getting back together with your ex. Through the use of the next five tips, your ex may love you more, and want to be reconciled with you.

1) Stay strong. The wrong thing for you to do is beg. Acting obsessive and clingy smacks of hopeless desperation, and it is more of a turn off than anything. Also, by being weak you will be giving more power to your ex, understanding that helps make things worse. Instead, give your ex the impression that you will be doing good without them by staying strong. Perhaps your boyfriend or girlfriend will realize you’ve moved on, but they weren’t as prepared to split like they first thought.

2) Reduce connection. What? You may be wondering how not talking to one another could ever allow you to win your ex back. It seems so counterintuitive. But over time, it could be a brilliant move. It gives both parties an opportunity to cool down and reassess what went wrong. In addition, it gives your ex additional time to miss you. The old saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” does work in this instance and can lead to being together again.

3) Flexibility is vital. Avoid ultimatums and demands. As opposed to arguing, try sympathizing and tuning in. Go with the flow and be flexible. Your current ex may gladly see that you are willing to compromise and be reasonable. This alone may be enough to get them thinking about being a couple again. Plus, it shows themthat you don’t always have to argue. (Now, how did I understand you might have argued previously?)

4) Step out! Look, you broke up…everybody gets that. But that doesn’t mean you should wallow in self-pity and isolate yourself from your friends and having a good time. Go out. Live a little bit. Have some fun. Be around friends. Its not necessary to start out dating to prove anything at all, just have a fantastic time.But not only will achieving this be therapeutic, it’s going to also cause you to look better from the eyes of your ex.

5) Be yourself. That’s all. You need to be what you are. It’s almost guaranteed that your boyfriend or girlfriend was originally interested in some element, or elements of who you really are. Be confident in being whoever you happen to be. Nobody likes a phony, your ex, with time, may react to the identical things they found so appealing when they first met you. Repairing those broken bonds are a sure way to get your ex back  once and for all.